In our previous posts, we’ve talked
about many things regarding to relationship and love. We’ve equally seen some
qualities, reasons, and some Do’s and Don’ts but today I want to give you major
qualities and skills needed in building a lasting relationship.
Some do have the mentality that it
is money that builds a lasting relationship while others say it is money that
get the girls and make them yours forever, and I want to ask you this.
What if the money finishes? That
means the relationship won’t last because it’s based on money and for you
thinking that money gets the girls, you may be right in your perspective but
once they have the money, they got nothing to do with you regarding to
relationship and if they are being asked, their response will be like “He is
just a friend that helps out with some money. You have nothing to do with her
feelings.
Now you have to know one thing
about girls. You may be giving them money thinking you are getting them to
yourself but sorry, you got it wrong because definitely, they will use it to
solve their problems and that of the person they truly love and not you.
You can also look up for this post
“Becoming the Right personin a Relationship”
Okay now let’s go to the reason why
you are reading. According to some investigations, interviews, researches and
experiences, there are many Qualities, ways, skills, steps or things needed in
Building up a lasting relationship and here I will give you the major ones I’ve
gathered so far off the streets from people who have a lasting Relationship.
Some of the Qualities that is
really important in Building a lasting relationship are as follows:
1. Trust
2. Communication
3. Having time
for each other
4. Understanding
5. Respect
each other’s opinion
TRUST: A comrade, who I asked about the things that has kept
his relationship told me it’s Trust and now letting me know that “You can love
the one you Trust but can’t Trust the one you love” sounds complicated right?
You see that? Not a matter of loving but a matter of Trust. According to the
dictionary definition on Trust, it means the belief that someone or something
is good, Honest, Sincere, etc and will not try to harm or trick you. So it’s a
complete home or faith on somebody or something not to disappoint, fail, bring
you down, break your heart, divorce you, fight you, etc. And remember that
trusting has to be with someone you have known as a friend or spouse.
Communication: To build a lasting relationship
there should be a strong communication. This is one of the things that crashed
the first relationship I ever had (lack of communication). It was one sided. I
was the only one to do the calling but at a point, I had a second thought. The
one I think I love; does she love me the same way? Even when I ceased to call
for “Twenty-four” good days not even
a single call from her or a message then I lost all interest about it.
So from that
you can see that communication is a very important/necessary issue in building
a lasting relationship. Someone who comes for training in my centre said that he
failed to call for five (5) days and neither did she call him. She in question is
the lady he is falling for and he forgot to grow the love with her instead.
The next day
when he called, he was warned seriously not to call again. So you see how
important communication is. It makes a relationship to be lively. Even when you
don’t know what to talk about, just call and you will be surprised that she has
something he/she want to tell you that is very interesting and please this is
for everyone: Don’t make the calling or communication to be one sided. This is
why what happened during my first relationship happened. It was a one sided
relationship in every part. So please Ladies and Gentlemen, if he did not call,
she should try to do so and vice versa.
Having Time
for Each Other: In building a lasting relationship, you have to
create/make out time to see and hear each other out, play together, work
together, teach yourselves what you are supposed to know. In a short term,
having a good and enough time for your spouse is a great way of building a
lasting relationship.
Understanding:
In every relationship that has lasted, there is a great understanding
between the individual involved. Here you need to be more psychological to
understand some of the character that your lover/spouse puts up. When one is
angry, the other shouldn’t be angry or upset at the same time. And now to the
ladies/women reading this post, if your spouse is annoyed, angry or mad at you,
and you’ve tried to say you’re sorry and he keeps on shouting on you, do not
respond to it or say anything rather, be mute for when he is calm he will be
the one to say I’m sorry (it’s a simple trick).
Respect
each other’s opinion: Everybody has his/her own value, self-worth or esteem
and opinion too and we have to respect that especially in relationship. Don’t
always make yourself right. Even when you know you are right, also try to ask
your spouse to know his/her opinion towards what you want to do in your
relationship or whatsoever you can trust him with. Be a good listener, pay much
attention to what your spouse has to say, don’t try to always be at the top
thereby bringing down the self-worth/esteem of your spouse. Respect what he says,
respect what she says, work with his/her principle, terms and conditions,
respect his/her privacy and don’t always look for his/her trouble. Remember
that self-esteem matters, don’t tamper with it.
Also remember that; “You find your one and only true love once in a life time”. So be careful and
mindful of how you handle it.
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